So another year has almost passed. Where has it gone? I cannot believe we are entering December already. Only barely one month left to get ready for 2020. Another year, another set of goals and resolutions. How do I better myself in 2020? What do I want to achieve? Get rid of the negatives and get more of the positives. I want to be a better person mentally and physically, to remain happy and healthy. But first, I need to look back at what has been happening to me personally this year, what has worked, what hasn’t?
The beauty of crystals has always made me happy for as long as I can remember, and I always fall back on my crystals when I feel down. Crystals are in every part of my life. Every end of the year I sit down and set my goals for the new year ahead. If I want more love for the year ahead then I would put more Rose Quartz around the house. If I want to lift myself and feel more positive then I would put more Selenite and Black Tourmaline everywhere. It is very important to plan ahead and use crystals to help you achieve your goals.
Look back in 2019 and ask yourself these questions before you start writing down your goals for 2020:
-What were your successes or positives of the year?
-Did you reach all the main goals that you had set for this year? Why or why not?
-Which goals are unfinished? Do you still want to achieve those goals?
-And finally, you still have to face them: What were your biggest disappointments or negatives of the year?
It is always good to look back and reminisce about your successes and happy times. They make you happy again reliving those moments, make you smile, lift your spirit, you know there are many positives in your life. These moments do not need to be great successes, they can be quite innocent and unnoticeable to other people. I took up swimming again after a 30-year break this year. I used to swim regularly when I was in school, doing laps for 2000 to 3000 metres twice a week. Then I just stopped. Late January this year, I decided to pick up swimming again after a personal tragedy that I will talk about later here. Picking up swimming again was certainly not a goal I had set last year, but I consider it a huge personal victory after my loss.
Did I achieve all the main goals I had set for this year? No. What would I do next year if I had? J We can always find a million excuses for not achieving our goals, but it is important to be honest with ourselves. Don’t be too hard or too soft, but be honest. Honesty to yourself does not mean that you have to blurt it out to every second person on the street. It’s enough to admit what needs to be improved so that you can better yourself next year. After all, what is life without goals?
Given a year and new light, new understanding, new maturity, new circumstances, some goals may no longer be important to you. Or you realise that becoming a billionaire in one year is not THAT easy after all. It is perfectly ok to drop some unfinished goals, sometimes you need to clean your plate and start anew. But don’t be too defeatist, not all goals can be achieved within a year. If you really want it you have to work hard towards it. Chase it tirelessly and grab on it like a pitbull when you get it.
One of the hardest things in life is to face your failures, disappointments, and negatives. But you still have to do it to better yourself. How else would you know your own shortcomings without looking back at your failures? How else can you move on without first looking at your biggest loss in the eye? My dog, Kajsa, passed away on January 17th this year. She came to me from a dog pound when she was only two and she had been my companion for 15 years. I know 17 was a grand old age for a pooch, but she was the daughter I never had and I had been dreading the day she would pass for a couple of years. When it happened, I was so deep in sorrow I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat, I could barely function. I was in such a bad state that I decided that I had to do something drastic. I forced myself to walk 10 kms each day as well as walking 6 kms return to the swimming pool to swim twice a week. Physical exercise eases your mind off negative thoughts. It worked. I still miss Kajsa everyday but I can deal with my grief now and move on with life. I also started creating small crystal garden in pots, sort of my version of Zen gardens with beautiful crystals for my own enjoyment.
One thing to remember with this year coming to the end, very fitting and it is a motto I have embraced for better or for worse – “This, too, shall pass”. When life is good, enjoy it, but be nice to those less fortunate because the Wheel of Life turns constantly. And when life is not so good, remember that that, too, shall pass and keep on smiling.
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